Dad's Quick Take
Before you move in together, agree in writing on how you'll split rent and bills, handle chores, deal with guests and quiet hours, and divide shared costs. It feels awkward for ten minutes and prevents months of resentment.
What to spell out
- Rent & bills — who pays what, to whom, and by when.
- The security deposit — who put in what, and how it comes back.
- Chores — a simple rotation or split so it's not always one person.
- Guests & partners — how often, how long, and overnight rules.
- Quiet hours and shared vs. personal food/supplies.
- What happens if someone moves out early.
Dad's take
Money and dishes end more friendships than anything else under one roof. Write it down while everyone's still being nice — future you will be grateful.
Common questions
Isn't a written agreement overkill with friends?
The opposite — clear expectations are what keep friendships intact. It's not distrust; it's good fences.
How do we split uneven rooms?
Bigger room or private bath usually pays a bit more. Agree on it before move-in, not after.